When teenagers have confidence and resilience, they’re better able to tackle difficult situations and bounce back from tough times. Here are some tips for building confidence and resilience in your child. Be practical Look for the practical and positive things your child can do to build skills and increase her chances of success. For example, ‘Ada, if you want to be picked for the basketball team, you need to make sure you’re listening to the coach and practicing between sessions’. Give your child opportunities to try new things When your child tries lots of different things, he’ll get to know what he’s good at and what he enjoys. He’ll also learn that most people do well at some things and not so well at others – and that’s fine. After all, we can’t all be Olympic athletes, computer geniuses or rock gods! Encourage your child to keep trying If your child fails at something, help her understand that everyone makes mistakes. It’s OK if you can’t do something the first time you try. You could share some examples of times that you have failed, or have needed to keep trying at something. Model confidence in your own ability You can be a role model when it comes to confidence. For example, you could talk to your child about what you’re going to do to try to succeed at a task. If it doesn’t work out, you can model resilience by talking about what you’re going to try next time. You can also discuss things you’ve done that might have been scary or tough for you to do, showing your child that you’ve also been through times when you’ve needed confidence. Encourage your child to act confident Acting confident is the first step to feeling confident. So you could suggest to your child that he makes eye contact with others, is bold, does what he loves, tries not to focus on what he can’t do, and walks away from situations he knows aren’t good. Practice social skills If your child feels anxious in social situations, she might need some guidance from you. For example, body posture, smiling, connecting with others, showing interest in others’ activities and joining in conversations can help build confidence. Praise your child’s efforts If an exam, interview or game doesn’t work out the way your child hoped, try to praise your child for the effort he put into the activity. You could also suggest some ideas about what he could do differently next time.